Between both sets of our parents, there are 11 marriages and 8 of them have ended in divorce. You’d think we would be the harshest critics of marriage, since all we saw was the pain and brokenness in our parent’s marriages.
After meeting in college, it was love at first sight. We shared our dreams, desires and were young and in love. 2 years later, we were married… and then it happened. All the expectations of living happily ever came crashing down around us. The first three years of our marriage were filled with screaming matches, threats, lies, and unforgiveness.
We both got married to be happy, but no one ever told us it would require this much work. It came so easily in our dating years, why was it so hard after we said, I do. We vowed that divorce was not an option, but it seemed like ending things was becoming our reality… quickly.
It was time to make a change. We surrounded ourselves with mentors to help us navigate this difficult season. We had to start working on ourselves before we sought out the change in the other. We read any book we could get our hands on and even attended a marriage boot camp! In a lot of ways, we started dating each other again, discovering each others strengths, learning how to communicate productively, and took up some hobbies together.
Going on 12 years with 2 kids (1 with autism), life has certainly not let up. We are continually faced with the challenges of making our marriage a priority. Some days we win, some days we lose.
We discovered that great marriages don’t happen by accident, but require being intentional 365 days a year. We want to see marriages thrive. We want to see marriages last a lifetime. We want to be part of the solution. We’ve enjoyed playing the role as coach and mentor for couples in the early stages of marriage and when they hit the rough patches.
Casey has officiated over 500 weddings and is recognized as one of the top officiants in the Southern California area with OC Wedding Vows. During the day, he fundraises for nonprofits and looks for excuses to go out and surf.
Meygan stays at home with the kids, plays the role as neighborhood party planner, room mom, fitness guru, and looks for excuses to spend a day at the spa.